Just because your life is a disaster
of disorder and despair right now
doesn’t mean they won’t shut off
your lights and add on
a ridiculous late fee if you
don’t pay your bill on time.
Letting stuff go
The whole divorce journey includes learning to let things go. People, things, emotions, negative feelings.
CAUTION: We must acknowledge that this is not a linear process, you will find that you will circle through, and fall back, and think you crossed one off when all of a sudden, something triggers an episode.
Our objectives for this module
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]Accept the Reality of the Loss[/li]
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]Experience the Pain of Grief[/li]
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]Adjust to the new Normal[/li]
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]Reinvesting or Learning to Thrive[/li]
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We want to make it clear that grieving is an important part of the process and not something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about.
Simply by understanding the stages of grief and what needs to be accomplished you take an important first step to conquering these tasks. We are not suggesting that you will conquer all four of these tasks during this month, but developing the framework for you to use as you move forward. Your job during this module is to work through these materials and complete the worksheet Getting a Grip on Grief.
Last, make sure to keep you eye out for your bonus delivery. You should be receiving your copy of Radical Recovery: Transforming the despair of your divorce into an unexpected good, and your MasterPlan binder to keep all your worksheets and resources.
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Grief and Divorce
Discussing the 4 tasks of grieving.
Task 1 – Believing It’s Real
Task 2 – Experience the Pain
This video is a little longer, but this task is a little more challenging and probably the most pressing issue right now.
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RADiCAL Grieving – A Blueprint for Understanding the Grief of Divorce
Helping you Navigate the Unique Grieving of Divorce – Grief is work, but it does a specific job too. It’s hard like any other kind of work, but it has a definite purpose, and it has an end.
Download & Read RADiCAL Grieving (PDF)
Radical Recovery
There is just a little section on grieving in the Radical Recovery book that I wanted to share with you here.
Download & Read the section on Grieving (PDF)
Get a Grip on Grief (THIS IS YOUR NEXT STEP)
Complete this worksheet. Spend a few days truly contemplating your answers and what it is you’ve lost and are grieving. Then decide how you are going to direct that grief, and let it out.
Download the Get a Grip Worksheet – (PDF)
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The Grieving Process of Divorce
This following audio clip is a recording from Therese McKecknie, L.S.C.S.W. Therese has a master’s in social work and is a licensed clinical social worker who will be helping us understand the grieving process of a midlife divorce and why this situation is so devastating.
She also follows the framework developed by William Worden and explains it’s relation to the divorce journey.