“You have to deal with the fact that your life is your life.”
– Alex Hailey, Canadian Novelist
Can I Really Survive This?
At times early in the divorce recovery journey, you wonder if you’ll really survive this. You worry that your life will never be very good again. Some nights the loneliness is overwhelming. This trip takes longer than you think it should. It’s harder than your friends and family realize, but you are learning some of the most valuable lessons you will ever learn. A few of the important things you will learn:
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]How to value yourself and your opinions[/li]
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]How to be confident in exactly who you are[/li]
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]How to boldly plan and take action for the life you want now[/li]
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]How to give up trying to solve all the problems in the universe[/li]
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]How to take responsibility for your own happiness and fulfillment[/li]
[li type=”icon-caret-right”]How to let go of people, thoughts and ideas that hold you back.[/li]
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We really only have one job for you in this Module and that is for you to make the decision to move forward. THIS IS YOUR NEXT STEP
As you’ve probably noticed, this program is a working program. It’s not just a program to go through when you want or moan and groan about how bad things are without making any effort to do the work to move forward. This is hard, change is a choice. Transformation is not a trip to the amusement park. Your new life is going to be wonderful, but it means you have to decide to have a good life and then take action to get that good life.
STEP ONE – Read the following statement several times (aloud if possible):
that I am responsible
for my own happiness.”
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Grief and Divorce
Discussing the 4 tasks of grieving.
Task 1 – Believing It’s Real
Task 2 – Experience the Pain
This video is a little longer, but this task is a little more challenging and probably the most pressing issue right now.
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RADiCAL Grieving – A Blueprint for Understanding the Grief of Divorce
Helping you Navigate the Unique Grieving of Divorce – Grief is work, but it does a specific job too. It’s hard like any other kind of work, but it has a definite purpose, and it has an end.
Download & Read RADiCAL Grieving (PDF)
Radical Recovery
There is just a little section on grieving in the Radical Recovery book that I wanted to share with you here.
Download & Read the section on Grieving (PDF)
Get a Grip on Grief (THIS IS YOUR NEXT STEP)
Complete this worksheet. Spend a few days truly contemplating your answers and what it is you’ve lost and are grieving. Then decide how you are going to direct that grief, and let it out.
Download the Get a Grip Worksheet – (PDF)
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The Grieving Process of Divorce
This following audio clip is a recording from Therese McKecknie, L.S.C.S.W. Therese has a master’s in social work and is a licensed clinical social worker who will be helping us understand the grieving process of a midlife divorce and why this situation is so devastating.
She also follows the framework developed by William Worden and explains it’s relation to the divorce journey.