Blondie Southside

@blondie-southside

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I have been separated from my husband for almost three months, and thought I had accepted the fact that he was cheating and after trying to make it work, in the end he chose someone else. Today was the first time that I had a really long phone conversation with him, and found myself trying to convince him to come home and resolve our issues […] View
  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Hi KitKat, you came to the right place. I know you are surly going through the worst thing you have ever experienced. My husband chose to have an affair after 41 years of marriage and when I found out he chose the other women and left me. I was sideswiped and never saw it coming. Reach out and get the support you need. This is not something you…[Read more]

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 1 year, 8 months ago

    Winnie, so sorry to read you story. Even though it is obvious that your WAS is truly a man with no conscious. I know the pain of not having them. I can tell you with time the pain will lessen and you will start to see them for what they really are, liars, cheaters and men with no value. Your feeling are all normal, so do not be angry with…[Read more]

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Kobe, I’m sorry I do to know your story, but is he wanting to get back together or what? Are the two of you trying to make it work. I so, have you discussed this with your counselor? I suppose you have to follow your heart and be logical of the reality of what is going on. God Bless you.

    • The counselor said he feels quilty that is why he keeps texting and buying me gifts. He doesn’t want to get back. He is 9 years younger than me. I think he is going through a mid life crisis.

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    I feel the same, it’s been a year since DD and I filed for divorce in early June 2020, and still having mixed emotions after 41 years of marriage. I know there is no going back. Hurts like heck, I cry, get strong, cry again the continue to move on. It’s all we can do and inch by inch we get stronger. We can’t do this alone, thank god for this…[Read more]

    • He keeps texting me to see how I am doing. He even bought me a new radio and speakers for my car two weeks ago. The counselor tells me not to answer to his text. It is hard for me not to do so. I didn’t answer his last text when he asked if I got into the apartment and how I was doing.

      • Kobe, I’m sorry I do to know your story, but is he wanting to get back together or what? Are the two of you trying to make it work. I so, have you discussed this with your counselor? I suppose you have to follow your heart and be logical of the reality of what is going on. God Bless you.

        • The counselor said he feels quilty that is why he keeps texting and buying me gifts. He doesn’t want to get back. He is 9 years younger than me. I think he is going through a mid life crisis.

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    Dear Midnight,
    I’m hoping to get there too, I know I still have a long road ahead. Accepting it logically then accepting it emotionally is where I am struggling. I like you continue to trust God to guide me.

    • My heart goes out to you. I too am struggling. Ugh everyday I have to remind myself each day it is a choice to let go of what I thought I was married to so one day I can be my happy self again. You are definitely not alone.

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 8 months ago

    Welcome Drowsy, welcome with open arms. So sorry to read your story but know that this is a safe place where you can find support as you go through this dreadful journey of betrayal. We really understand what you are going through. Everything you are feeling is what we have all gone through or are going through. I’m 67, married 41 years, separated…[Read more]

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 8 months ago

    Welcome Kitty…I’m 68 and I think our situations are similar. We tried to work it out but in the end he chose the OW, 51 years old. I think for those of us who are older and retired it makes it harder. Harder in the fact that we have experienced longer marriages and life in itself. Not to take away from all the women who have been betrayed, their…[Read more]

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 8 months ago

    Hello Tootybruce and Juno, we are all in the same boat. I was married 41 years, WASbend left me for a younger women he sought out online, friend of a friend supposedly, and fell in love with her and left his family. Just sold our house, and am just now looking into starting the divorce. It’s all coming to a head, and I like you Tootybruce can’t…[Read more]

    • Hello Blondie, If there is anything I can tell you with any surety, it’s that it does get so much better. Doing the plan, praying, coming here, all of it helps immensely. God Bless.

    • I was with him for 3years and married for 14. He got me to sign a prenuptial I did not understand and was ondating sites. Basically toxic remember better late than never to become free of any toxic relationships no matter how long. YOU ARENOW FREE to be the wonderful person I know you are. We are all hwrd fir you and each other. God bless and…[Read more]

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 9 months ago

    Lulu,
    I know, my WASbend has done so many things that are totally out of his character. We all have flaws and problems, but please come to me first is what I say. No need to cheat and lie.
    He has apologized to me numerous times, to my face and in writing. He said he is so sorry and ashamed for what he has done, but just can’t stop. He says he is…[Read more]

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 9 months ago

    Dear Lulu,
    I feel just like you, replaced in the blink of eye. Bringing up things from the past, just to try and justify his bad behavior. Wanting to blame us, and say they were not happy. Geez, 41 years and never speaking up. He told me that I “opened the window of opportunity” for him because I didn’t listen to him. OMG, after 41 years I was…[Read more]

    • Hi Blondie
      Far too many stories are similar to mine.
      I often wonder if he regrets anything. I truly believe he was in a manic episode when he made so many destructive decisions from lying, cheating and recklessly spending money.
      Now that he is out of mania, he has to have some moments of regret when he lays his head down on his pillow. Maybe…[Read more]

      • Lulu,
        I know, my WASbend has done so many things that are totally out of his character. We all have flaws and problems, but please come to me first is what I say. No need to cheat and lie.
        He has apologized to me numerous times, to my face and in writing. He said he is so sorry and ashamed for what he has done, but just can’t stop. He says he is…[Read more]

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 9 months ago

    I was married 41 years to what I felt was a great man with morals and values. He started cheating with a woman he sought out over the phone. Eventually said he fell in love with her. After many attempts to make it work he chose to leave. His relationship is long distance, who knows when he sees her, I don’t care.
    He’s living in our 28 ft tra…[Read more]

    • I’m so sorry for you and your loss as well. I’ve posted my story earlier today. I’ve been with my husband for 30 years. He’s got a porn addiction and started an online affair. He felt I didn’t listen to him and one night he came home complaining about work. I told him I didn’t want to hear it and he took that and started an affair. He feels to th…[Read more]

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 9 months ago

    I needed a laugh, great idea, the animals at that zoo are going to be well fed on Valentine’s Day!

  • Blondie Southside posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    Dear Rebel,
    You are so right, he has a lot to loose but he made the choice. Only time will tell, I will take care of myself. I pray for strength and know I am blessed and loved by my children, family and friends. I have a long road ahead of me but I also know that I am a surviver! God Bless us all.

  • I have been separated from my husband for almost three months, and thought I had accepted the fact that he was cheating and after trying to make it work, in the end he chose someone else.
    Today was the first time that I had a really long phone conversation with him, and found myself trying to convince him to come home and resolve our issues again.…[Read more]

    • Oh Blondie, I so feel for you, it is so hard to try to get them to see what they are loosing. The entire family will never feel whole again.
      The only thing you can do is take care of yourself and look to the next minute, then hour, then day till you get strong enough to say I am more important than him. Just make of a list of things that you are…[Read more]

      • Dear Rebel,
        You are so right, he has a lot to loose but he made the choice. Only time will tell, I will take care of myself. I pray for strength and know I am blessed and loved by my children, family and friends. I have a long road ahead of me but I also know that I am a surviver! God Bless us all.

    • I did the same thing….and now a few years down the road I’m really glad I did. I can look back if I have to and say I left no stone let unturned…I tried everything…so I’m trusting God to continue to guide me and help me. And He does!

      • Dear Midnight,
        I’m hoping to get there too, I know I still have a long road ahead. Accepting it logically then accepting it emotionally is where I am struggling. I like you continue to trust God to guide me.

        • My heart goes out to you. I too am struggling. Ugh everyday I have to remind myself each day it is a choice to let go of what I thought I was married to so one day I can be my happy self again. You are definitely not alone.

    • I feel you. I have been married for 17 years, and in those 17 years, there’s lots of crying and begging for him to stay. I still want to beg one more time but I have asked for this as a sign from God. Last year was the final straw, I prayed to God and asked HIM for a last chance for our marriage to work it out and if separation issue comes up…[Read more]

    • Blondie, I feel your pain. I’ve been married 38 years and he left me and moved out May 1. There are so many stages we go through with the grieving process. I’ve been sad, angry, then apologize for my behavior then back full circle. After investing in all the years with the kids, homes, memories and they walk away from it all for someone else it’s…[Read more]

    • I am so sorry I am new and only 18 years of marriage but mine did the same and i know what your feeling please don’t think your stupid we are all doing the very best we can with what we have been delt I don’t know you but I know you are a wonderful person and deserve all the best

    • Blondie, your story sounds very much like mine. I told my husband of 42 years that he had to leave 3 months ago after I became aware that a friendship she had with a tennis partner was escalating to more than just friends. He had done the same thing 2 years before with another woman. After he left he started a physical relationship with her but…[Read more]

    • I have spoken to my husband multiple times over the last few weeks, begging him to come back. I tell him how much I am hurting. 20 years of marriage and 20 years of infidelities. I feel so stupid even wanting him back and loving him so much. What is wrong with me?..
      I want to trust God. We are not even divorced yet, this is all so new.
      I miss…[Read more]

      • Winnie, so sorry to read you story. Even though it is obvious that your WAS is truly a man with no conscious. I know the pain of not having them. I can tell you with time the pain will lessen and you will start to see them for what they really are, liars, cheaters and men with no value. Your feeling are all normal, so do not be angry with…[Read more]

    • I think what you did is normal. After a long marriage that you think is ok and you don’t suspect anything, to be betrayed and discarded, just like that is devastating. Mine is going on 32 years. It takes time to heal. I’m not there yet because on top of being discarded I’m being imotionally and financially destroyed through the divorce process.…[Read more]