Henry Huntting

@henry-huntting

Active 3 weeks, 6 days ago
  • Henry Huntting posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Joyful,
    I am on almost the same timeline, although a bit further along. My divorce was finalized 5 weeks ago after being separated for 1 year and four months . Believe it or not, I am starting to feel a bit better. I was still really hurting before the divorce was final and the month following d day was rough. But, there is something to be said…[Read more]

  • Henry Huntting posted a new activity comment 2 years, 5 months ago

    Hi Juno,
    How have you been? I’ve missed hearing about you. Yes, a zoom meeting would be nice. Let me know what’s been going on! XoHenry

  • Henry Huntting posted a new activity comment 2 years, 5 months ago

    Hey Tara, I agree that this is how dating works….you need to take your time getting to know him, and yourself in terms of your preferences and bottom lines. I think the quarantine is a difficult time to make decisions in budding relationships….maybe give it a bit more time to unravel your mixed emotions. Xoxo. Keep us posted. Henry

  • Henry Huntting posted a new activity comment 2 years, 5 months ago

    Hey hey Tara! I am happy to hear that you have been feeling a lot better. Weird, I was just thinking of you and the above mentioned others! It’s been a while since I have posted. My divorce is almost finalized and I am feeling considerably better. I am no longer in that 24/7 grief I thought would never end. Facing my life alone( I too have b…[Read more]

    • Hi Henry! About not picking the same type of guy again…the ‘new guy’ seems very different, more literary, verbal, gentlemanly. BUT…he is fat! Wasband was very athletic, played tennis with men half his age and won blah blah blah. I’ve struggled to stay in shape, but am carrying 30 pounds I could do without.
      So I feel like the message is that…[Read more]

      • Hey Tara, I agree that this is how dating works….you need to take your time getting to know him, and yourself in terms of your preferences and bottom lines. I think the quarantine is a difficult time to make decisions in budding relationships….maybe give it a bit more time to unravel your mixed emotions. Xoxo. Keep us posted. Henry

      • Hi Tara, I’m so glad you’re still “seeing” your engaging man! So he’s fat, just more to love!

        • Hi Juno,
          Good to hear from you! He is very unhappy about his weight, he refuses to send me a picture of himself! I am filled with fear and trepidation often. I’ll be sailing along having fun talking to him, then I just feel removed from the conversation. sigh…time will tell.

      • I am scared for your emotional state. You have created a dating persona through texting but you listed several turnoffs about the new person. If they are turn offs now, I can’t see how they will ever be turn on’s. Don’t sell yourself short just to have someone to date. This is a new chapter in your life and you do not have to settle. You c…[Read more]

    • Hello Henry, So good to hear from you. We should all try to do a Zoom meeting one day. I’m glad you’ve found someone interesting. You deserve it after the hell you’ve been through. xoxo

      • Hi Juno,
        How have you been? I’ve missed hearing about you. Yes, a zoom meeting would be nice. Let me know what’s been going on! XoHenry

  • Henry Huntting posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    Carmel,
    It is crazy what they do. My soon to be x did something similar. In our emails back and forth, he brought in his girlfriend….quoting her insulting comment to me about how I am handling the divorce. It hurt like nothing else. This was about a month after I had distanced myself, repeatedly asking for space and no more personal…[Read more]

    • I can’t believe wasbands can be so cruel. Makes me think you are both lucky to be done with them even-though the pain is incredible. It does come to an end, or so says my divorced neighbor, married 33 years!

  • Henry Huntting posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    Gosh, Corky! What a twisted story ….your x sounds like a nightmare with money and unfortunately desperate to appear as though he is not. The new gf will find out soon enough that all that glitters is not gold. Meanwhile, please do everything you can to keep his paws off of your pension. I can’t imagine that he would be in his right mind to e…[Read more]

  • Dear Melissa,
    I am so sorry to hear that you had to endure this. It looks as if you handled it brilliantly and have used it as a steppingstone to help others. As I travel through my own crisis in my marriage, I strive to be able to come out the other side in strength, and helping others. Thanks for your example. -Henry.