kitty

@kitty

Active 2 years, 8 months ago
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  • kitty posted an update 2 years, 8 months ago

    Thank you Blondie et all. I feel like I’m in the twight zone. First the betrayal of husband committing adult then retiring early because his new lover is someone I worked with… now this quarintine.

  • kitty posted a new activity comment 2 years, 8 months ago

    Been 8 months since he left and 3 months since divorce was final. When he committed adultry it was the proverbial “straw.” I knew there was no going back after this final betrayal. I retired early from my job as a therapist. Like the old adage physician heal thyself I thought I could move on fairy quickly. Not so. The grief continues.

    • Welcome Kitty…I’m 68 and I think our situations are similar. We tried to work it out but in the end he chose the OW, 51 years old. I think for those of us who are older and retired it makes it harder. Harder in the fact that we have experienced longer marriages and life in itself. Not to take away from all the women who have been betrayed, their…[Read more]

  • kitty posted an update 2 years, 8 months ago

    I am 71 and husband left for a 40 something woman. Felt like I had been kicked in the gut. Alternated between shock grief wanting him dead and missing the way it used to me. Anyone opd and kicked to the curb?

    • Hi Kitty, Welcome to the group! All of those feelings rumbled around in my head for a long time. Im not sure how long you’ve been divorced or if it’s brand new, but remember that every emotion is given to us for a reason. That was a revelation to me. So instead of just feeling angry, I eventually learned to ask myself, “Okay, why am I angry?…[Read more]

      • Been 8 months since he left and 3 months since divorce was final. When he committed adultry it was the proverbial “straw.” I knew there was no going back after this final betrayal. I retired early from my job as a therapist. Like the old adage physician heal thyself I thought I could move on fairy quickly. Not so. The grief continues.

        • Welcome Kitty…I’m 68 and I think our situations are similar. We tried to work it out but in the end he chose the OW, 51 years old. I think for those of us who are older and retired it makes it harder. Harder in the fact that we have experienced longer marriages and life in itself. Not to take away from all the women who have been betrayed, their…[Read more]