Lambie Allison

@lambie-allison

Active 2 years, 4 months ago
  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    I am really sorry to hear that your church hasn’t been as welcoming as it should be. It may be time to find a new church. A lot of churches are having online services and it could actually be a good way to check a few out. Maybe check out my denomination: Episcopal. Our Music Director, she is such a godly woman, and she has been divorced twice.…[Read more]

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    I feel for you Midget. What a challenging situation. Sometimes you have to repeat Psalm 23 over and over again. One day at a time.

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    Oh, and my ex’s girlfriend is a journalist covering COVID 19. Really. My kids say she is still over there every day.

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    Welcome to the group. My situation is not exactly the same but it has some similarities. The thing you probably already know is the narcissist ex can’t accept any blame so the breakdown of the marriage has to be 100% your fault. False accusations — I had those. My ex said it was dangerous for my kids to be around me. Said he had witnesses that…[Read more]

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    welcome!! Some of these ladies that are really at the start of this will really benefit from your experience and wisdom!

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 8 months ago

    Great job controlling your temper. I want to say something supportive to you, but this situation also leaves me speechless. In some ways I think it’s a blessing to find out a person’s true colors sooner rather than later. Your granddaughters know they can count on you and that’s good to know.

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 9 months ago

    Hi Patches. In all the reading I did trying to cope with my divorce, I learned that the situation you are in isn’t uncommon at all. There is a website chumplady.com, where they refer to it as “cake”: wanting to keep the marriage and the affair. As the wife, it can really mess with your head. In Suzy’s case, she had to file for divorce because her…[Read more]

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 9 months ago

    Corky, I am praying for Grace and I am so glad she is doing ok!! Grace has to deal both with her medical problems and the knowledge that her dad didn’t even come visit her in the hospital. It must hurt a lot. He might have been a good guy when you got married, but he’s not a good guy now. I’m so sorry. My wasband also did not visit my son when he…[Read more]

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 9 months ago

    Hi Lucky, I hope you are feeling a little better today. There is a theory that the body generates physical pain to distract from emotional pain. The pain isn’t made up — your cells are really being deprived of oxygen. I don’t know if this is true or not, but the theory is by Dr. John Sarno. Best wishes.

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    I understand. I’m afraid of my wasband too. . My car, I mean, I call it “my car” but it’s not, is actually titled in wasband’s name. Ask your lawyer for advice and do what the lawyer says. That’s what I do. Despite being terrified, I turned down wasband’s settlement offer twice

    • Way to go Lambie, My lawyer sent my counter proposal over, that is another reason he is upset. I love that part.
      I told Ahole that if he takes car we will sell everything down to the toilet paper, including his GUNS and all his tools

    • Right. Don’t settle until it seems fair to you.

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    This is completely unacceptable and I would be livid too.
    You might want to consider asking him to not contact you anymore and only reach you through your lawyer. Then he can make his ridiculous requests to your lawyer instead of you.

    Good luck.

    • I’m afraid he’ll take car, he has key also, I talked to assistant today she said she would have my lawyer contact his.

      • I understand. I’m afraid of my wasband too. . My car, I mean, I call it “my car” but it’s not, is actually titled in wasband’s name. Ask your lawyer for advice and do what the lawyer says. That’s what I do. Despite being terrified, I turned down wasband’s settlement offer twice

        • Way to go Lambie, My lawyer sent my counter proposal over, that is another reason he is upset. I love that part.
          I told Ahole that if he takes car we will sell everything down to the toilet paper, including his GUNS and all his tools

        • Right. Don’t settle until it seems fair to you.

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    Hi Sarah, No worries. This is a safe space here. Whatever happens, everyone here loves and supports you.

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    Hi Sarah. I’m also 42. Please be compassionate with yourself. It’s *really* hard, going through a divorce and breast cancer and early menopause. It’s ok to cry. Hugs.

  • Lambie Allison posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    Hi Corky. I totally understand why you are scared and worried. Please talk to your lawyer.

    I have a friend who was in a similar situation (contentious divorce) and he stopped drinking altogether. 100% abstinence. It worked for him, he still shares custody legally with his ex-wife.