Lulu Worthington

@lulu-worthington

Active 1 year, 8 months ago
  • Lulu Worthington posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    Hi Blondie
    Far too many stories are similar to mine.
    I often wonder if he regrets anything. I truly believe he was in a manic episode when he made so many destructive decisions from lying, cheating and recklessly spending money.
    Now that he is out of mania, he has to have some moments of regret when he lays his head down on his pillow. Maybe…[Read more]

    • Lulu,
      I know, my WASbend has done so many things that are totally out of his character. We all have flaws and problems, but please come to me first is what I say. No need to cheat and lie.
      He has apologized to me numerous times, to my face and in writing. He said he is so sorry and ashamed for what he has done, but just can’t stop. He says he is…[Read more]

  • Lulu Worthington posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    I truly feel the man I married died. He once had morals and family values. His actions have been far reaching in his family. He is the oldest of 5. One sibling and his mother have a relationship with him. The rest do not. He had nowhere to go over the holidays so he spent Christmas with his girlfriend’s family in Amsterdam. This has fractured h…[Read more]

    • I was married 41 years to what I felt was a great man with morals and values. He started cheating with a woman he sought out over the phone. Eventually said he fell in love with her. After many attempts to make it work he chose to leave. His relationship is long distance, who knows when he sees her, I don’t care.
      He’s living in our 28 ft tra…[Read more]

      • I’m so sorry for you and your loss as well. I’ve posted my story earlier today. I’ve been with my husband for 30 years. He’s got a porn addiction and started an online affair. He felt I didn’t listen to him and one night he came home complaining about work. I told him I didn’t want to hear it and he took that and started an affair. He feels to th…[Read more]

  • Lulu Worthington posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    My wasband’s girlfriend is a foreigner in this country. She can’t work, drive and do anything independently. In fact English is her second language.
    My wasband always expected me to work and contribute. It was a partnership. Now it’s like he has a child, a dependent he’s taking care of.
    I guess she must stroke his ego and tell him how wonderf…[Read more]

  • Lulu Worthington posted a new activity comment 2 years, 7 months ago

    My wasband has told people he wasn’t happy for 30 years. I don’t believe it. No one does. It’s his way of justifying his destructive behavior.
    He’s told his kids… he’s running his life now. Accept it or don’t. Well, they don’t.

    • Wow, that’s incredibly similar. Truthfully, I was in control of many of the daily workings of our marriage especially regarding the kids and our finances. He just didn’t step up to contribute and consequently, I took on more and more. Now he is also saying that he is “in-charge” and creating something new and more focused on his needs. His…[Read more]

      • We only had three more years until my youngest is off to college. He just couldn’t wait.

        • My wasband’s girlfriend is a foreigner in this country. She can’t work, drive and do anything independently. In fact English is her second language.
          My wasband always expected me to work and contribute. It was a partnership. Now it’s like he has a child, a dependent he’s taking care of.
          I guess she must stroke his ego and tell him how wonderf…[Read more]

  • I’ve been separated for about 10 months. My wasband was a good fam ily man for 31 years. He lived for his kids and me. Things weren’t always perfect. Last April he went to Aruba with his brother for 4 days. While there he met a woman who lives is Amsterdam. When he returned home, he was a different person, mean and cold towards me. He also was spe…[Read more]

    • It took my husband less than 6 weeks to evaporate 30 years. I completely get your feelings. He has written many emails finding threads of behavior to blame in our long-term relationship. He is recoloring our past experiences into a picture I no longer recognize and running, not walking, away from it. He is also in a long-distance relationship that…[Read more]

      • My wasband has told people he wasn’t happy for 30 years. I don’t believe it. No one does. It’s his way of justifying his destructive behavior.
        He’s told his kids… he’s running his life now. Accept it or don’t. Well, they don’t.

        • Wow, that’s incredibly similar. Truthfully, I was in control of many of the daily workings of our marriage especially regarding the kids and our finances. He just didn’t step up to contribute and consequently, I took on more and more. Now he is also saying that he is “in-charge” and creating something new and more focused on his needs. His…[Read more]

          • We only had three more years until my youngest is off to college. He just couldn’t wait.

            • My wasband’s girlfriend is a foreigner in this country. She can’t work, drive and do anything independently. In fact English is her second language.
              My wasband always expected me to work and contribute. It was a partnership. Now it’s like he has a child, a dependent he’s taking care of.
              I guess she must stroke his ego and tell him how wonderf…[Read more]

    • We had a 35 year marriage and I was so sure it was a strong, good marriage that when he told me he was leaving me for his therapist I was dumbfounded. We owned a small business together and when we retired he felt lost. I suggested he see a therapist and he fell in love with her! He hasn’t spoken to our eldest daughter for two years because…[Read more]

      • I truly feel the man I married died. He once had morals and family values. His actions have been far reaching in his family. He is the oldest of 5. One sibling and his mother have a relationship with him. The rest do not. He had nowhere to go over the holidays so he spent Christmas with his girlfriend’s family in Amsterdam. This has fractured h…[Read more]

        • I was married 41 years to what I felt was a great man with morals and values. He started cheating with a woman he sought out over the phone. Eventually said he fell in love with her. After many attempts to make it work he chose to leave. His relationship is long distance, who knows when he sees her, I don’t care.
          He’s living in our 28 ft tra…[Read more]

          • I’m so sorry for you and your loss as well. I’ve posted my story earlier today. I’ve been with my husband for 30 years. He’s got a porn addiction and started an online affair. He felt I didn’t listen to him and one night he came home complaining about work. I told him I didn’t want to hear it and he took that and started an affair. He feels to th…[Read more]

    • Dear Lulu,
      I feel just like you, replaced in the blink of eye. Bringing up things from the past, just to try and justify his bad behavior. Wanting to blame us, and say they were not happy. Geez, 41 years and never speaking up. He told me that I “opened the window of opportunity” for him because I didn’t listen to him. OMG, after 41 years I was…[Read more]

      • Hi Blondie
        Far too many stories are similar to mine.
        I often wonder if he regrets anything. I truly believe he was in a manic episode when he made so many destructive decisions from lying, cheating and recklessly spending money.
        Now that he is out of mania, he has to have some moments of regret when he lays his head down on his pillow. Maybe…[Read more]

        • Lulu,
          I know, my WASbend has done so many things that are totally out of his character. We all have flaws and problems, but please come to me first is what I say. No need to cheat and lie.
          He has apologized to me numerous times, to my face and in writing. He said he is so sorry and ashamed for what he has done, but just can’t stop. He says he is…[Read more]