magnifiqueunique

@magnifiqueunique

Active 1 year, 9 months ago
I tried some dating apps. It feels surreal. I found out there are too many “crazies” out there. This is new to me. View
  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Hi Skyla. Sometimes, I am having trouble posting anywhere using my phone. Every time I post, it kicks me out from the page. I am using computer now. Thanks for asking.

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Thanks, Buffy. I agree. Sometimes, it feels so raw. I also have bad days, and also good days. I can’t even sleep recently. I am not losing hope though that there will be better days for us. xoxo

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Hi Scrappy. Welcome to the community. Just started a month ago. There will be some bad days, and also good days as well. You are always free to post here and in the forums section any feelings you have, and you’ll realize you are not alone in your journey.

  • I tried some dating apps. It feels surreal. I found out there are too many “crazies” out there. This is new to me.

  • i can’t post

    • Having trouble going into the Forum? You were there before, please tell us what is not working right from your end.

      • Hi Skyla. Sometimes, I am having trouble posting anywhere using my phone. Every time I post, it kicks me out from the page. I am using computer now. Thanks for asking.

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Thanks, Mighty! I am better today. I slept soundly. I am trying as much as I can to be distant with him as we are still cohabitating. Yes, I’ve noticed, my outlet is walking. I want to walk everyday. I sometimes walk with my daughter. And yes, I want to be dead too, sometimes. I know it is a sin, but sometimes I wish him to be dead too. I know we…[Read more]

    • Sometimes I’m so numb I hardly feel and then suddenly it all crashes around me and the emotions are so hard to deal with in the moment. It’s been 2 months for me since I realized he was truly having an involved affair and a little less since I found out it had been going on for more than 4 years. My emotions were still so raw many days I was jus…[Read more]

      • Thanks, Buffy. I agree. Sometimes, it feels so raw. I also have bad days, and also good days. I can’t even sleep recently. I am not losing hope though that there will be better days for us. xoxo

  • Lat night, I feel so alone. I was feeling it even if I know I am surrounded with friends. This morning, when I woke up, I was still feeling down. I just want to be numbed….

    • I am so sorry that you are suffering so magnifique! This is truly a sad and lonely journey that no-one can understand until they have walked the same road. I find the same thing and there are some days when I think that I would rather be dead than having to endure the pain of separation and loneliness. I can understand why people who are in a more…[Read more]

      • Thanks, Mighty! I am better today. I slept soundly. I am trying as much as I can to be distant with him as we are still cohabitating. Yes, I’ve noticed, my outlet is walking. I want to walk everyday. I sometimes walk with my daughter. And yes, I want to be dead too, sometimes. I know it is a sin, but sometimes I wish him to be dead too. I know we…[Read more]

        • Sometimes I’m so numb I hardly feel and then suddenly it all crashes around me and the emotions are so hard to deal with in the moment. It’s been 2 months for me since I realized he was truly having an involved affair and a little less since I found out it had been going on for more than 4 years. My emotions were still so raw many days I was jus…[Read more]

          • Thanks, Buffy. I agree. Sometimes, it feels so raw. I also have bad days, and also good days. I can’t even sleep recently. I am not losing hope though that there will be better days for us. xoxo

    • Hi, I have been going through similar situations with family and friends. They were there for me when he left but now, 2 years later when we are divorcing, it seems they are all either tired of it all, don’t want to see me in pain, wondering why I can’t just get it done quickly or feel I am not doing things the right/best way. I have had to limit…[Read more]

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    I can relate to you, Ms. Fluffy. For the first month, I wasn’t able to talk about it with my friends. I feel that nobody will understand and they can’t change anything. I recently told my close friend, however, I feel like she didn’t understand me as she is not in my situation. Although they’re supportive by offering me their place to sleep…[Read more]

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Thanks, Mighty. This is a relief knowing that even if we all don’t know each other personally, we are going through the same ordeal and we are able to understand each other. My friends and family will listen but they don’t actually have any idea how I feel exactly but here we understand each other. They may be tired of listening with my rants. I…[Read more]

    • Absolutely, this group has been my saving grace!! Use it all the time and speak to as many ladies in the group as they are all at different stages and we can learn a lot from one another. One step at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time and before you know it we will be soaring!!

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    This made me cry. I feel this, unvalued. It gave me hope though.

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    My heart is breaking just by reading your story coz it is what I’m feeling too. For the last week I was okay with it, then this week, I was crying and cant’ sleep. It is a roller coaster ride and emotions. I am for sure though that we will get over this someday.

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    I love this group. It is as if I am reading my feelings through your testimonials. It makes me cry too but at the same time it gives me hope that we can beat this together thinking that if others were able to get through it, then we can also do it. However, as our separation is still in progress, meaning we are still co habitating and still…[Read more]

    • I am so, so sorry magnifiqueunique that you are having to go through this experience as well! It is heart wrenching and devastatingly sad that we feel broken and alone when we have been betrayed by a man that we have been devoted to for so many years! I am newly separated as well and the sleepless nights have certainly been very debilitating but I…[Read more]

      • Thanks, Mighty. This is a relief knowing that even if we all don’t know each other personally, we are going through the same ordeal and we are able to understand each other. My friends and family will listen but they don’t actually have any idea how I feel exactly but here we understand each other. They may be tired of listening with my rants. I…[Read more]

        • Absolutely, this group has been my saving grace!! Use it all the time and speak to as many ladies in the group as they are all at different stages and we can learn a lot from one another. One step at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time and before you know it we will be soaring!!

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    I feel you. I have been married for 17 years, and in those 17 years, there’s lots of crying and begging for him to stay. I still want to beg one more time but I have asked for this as a sign from God. Last year was the final straw, I prayed to God and asked HIM for a last chance for our marriage to work it out and if separation issue comes up…[Read more]

  • I just hope there is a pdf form for this book so it’s easier to browse but nonetheless, I feel that this would really help me get through my separation.Thanks.

  • I was crying while I’m reading. I am in the process of separation and it hurts a lot. It seems like I am reading what I’m feeling.:(

  • magnifiqueunique posted a new activity comment 1 year, 12 months ago

    I am also going through separation.I was married for almost 17 years, it would have been 18 years this year. We have three kids and my birthday would be on June turning 40th!! I am not sure if this is a gift for my birthday or what? I can’t think of anything but to look for a new place with my kids. I am not even sure what to feel right now coz…[Read more]

    • I know exactly how you feel. Except I’m almost 70 and we don’t have children but we were married for 30 years and the divorce is not my choice. I don’t know how to act around him-what do you say to someone you’ve lived with for 30 years and built 2 businesses, who is so cold in talking about all this-it feels like a bad dream. I feel like I’m…[Read more]