Rebel Longfield

@rebel-longfield

Active 7 months, 1 week ago
Good morning ladies, I just received my judge signed dissolution of marriage. It is finally over. I know a lot of you are just beginning the walk through the jungle, but there is a big shining sun at the end and it will give you warmth. There is still so much to do to get my own house in order, I think I may go to a financial analyst to see […] View
  • Rebel Longfield posted an update 2 years ago

    Good morning ladies,
    I just received my judge signed dissolution of marriage. It is finally over.
    I know a lot of you are just beginning the walk through the jungle, but there is a big shining sun at the end and it will give you warmth.
    There is still so much to do to get my own house in order, I think I may go to a financial analyst to see what…[Read more]

    • Hi Rebel – I hired a financial advisor when my divorce was final. It was good for me. I don’t have a lot of assets (money) but it made me feel more secure that I had someone looking out for my best interest. I would encourage you to at least check it out. It may help you to have one less thing to worry about during this time. I wish you the best!

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    Hi Asia
    I love this place, here you can show the real you, take your face off and let it all out.
    Like the musketeers, one for all and all for one.
    Our wasbands show there fake faces to everyone including us at times. It is so nice to know we have a place where we can find understanding from others going through the same thing we are.
    It has…[Read more]

  • How low can he go, My 2 oldest Grandaughters 16 and 13 are going to trial about sexual abuse that had been going on from their father. I asked my wasband if he was going the end of this month to the trial.
    He said he didn’t know if he would have time.
    It took everything I had to not loose my temper and tell him what I thought of him.
    I don’t und…[Read more]

    • Great job controlling your temper. I want to say something supportive to you, but this situation also leaves me speechless. In some ways I think it’s a blessing to find out a person’s true colors sooner rather than later. Your granddaughters know they can count on you and that’s good to know.

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    I found a $700.00 charge on credit card for Romans (ED help and hair growth) if that doesn’t say mid-life crisis nothing does.
    I am doing better after seeing therapist and writing in my journal whenever I get angry or fearful it helps.

  • Well sisters I think I crossed a big hurdle today. Finally got my soon-to – ex to come to a financial agreement that we could both live with.
    I typed it up all pretty took it to the house and we both signed, dated and time stamped it. I got home and scanned it and sent to my lawyer.
    Hopefully it will go through quickly and he can leave for…[Read more]

    • Congratulations, Rebel. I pray the Lord continue to comfort you and provide for you a nice place to call home with room for your grandbabies to visit.

  • Hi everyone
    Hi everyone,
    Having a hard time today, our house sold today, happy it sold but sad to see that chapter in my life close. I get to pack all my favorite belongings because that is all I want. It is so hard to let go of things, not him. Hopefully this will put a fire under him and get this divorce finished. The house proceeds are going…[Read more]

    • Congratulations. I am in the process of getting our house ready to sell. Sorting through kid artwork and photos is terrible. I often find myself unable to breathe. My wasband came and took bags of goodwill and trash away for the first two weeks and since then hasn’t done much of anything. He is also dragging his feet with the divorce work. I…[Read more]

    • My ex was in a huge rush to finalize our divorce. He told me he wanted to just “hurry up and get it over with.” This all came out of the blue for me, so I was just in shock. Of course, he just took his main stuff and left. I had to clean out the 2500 square feet house and 18 years of our stuff (with help from family and friends) and figure out…[Read more]

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    I feel for you peppy, I think most of us are in the same position you are, our other half is BROKEN. It makes no sense why a supposedly intelligent person, our wasband can do such stupid things. My idiot also racked up a lot of phone time to and tried to weasel out of it, then when that didn’t work started blaming me. Just know that this ISN’T you…[Read more]

    • Yes, it is a fantasy. He hit 50 and started to feel like he wasn’t content with his life and he is now trying to make another. The blame has been overwhelming. I received a 6 page Google document that went all the way back to 1998 and listed everything that bothered him about me. I wish I hadn’t read it. He is reframing our long-term marriage as a…[Read more]

    • Go Rebel go!

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Keep your head high and eyes wide open.
    I can’t believe someone could stoop that low to not give you time with your daughter and grandchild.
    By the way congratulations.

  • Hey everyone, hubby started packing boxes and taking things to goodwill. I told him before nothing can be removed from house without my permission. My daughter was there and took pictures of things he was donating and she took the ones I wanted home.
    I am going over tomorrow and remind him again about removing things from the house and take…[Read more]

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Thanks everyone I swear I don’t medicate very often, I think twice since he told me the 10th of dec.
    I am just tired of being a puppet, he is now in our home, I’m at my daughters. He has now had the gall to ask me to come back to the house while he takes a trip February 18-24 so I can get house ready for showings and to take care of Harley our…[Read more]

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Way to go Lambie, My lawyer sent my counter proposal over, that is another reason he is upset. I love that part.
    I told Ahole that if he takes car we will sell everything down to the toilet paper, including his GUNS and all his tools

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    I’m afraid he’ll take car, he has key also, I talked to assistant today she said she would have my lawyer contact his.

    • I understand. I’m afraid of my wasband too. . My car, I mean, I call it “my car” but it’s not, is actually titled in wasband’s name. Ask your lawyer for advice and do what the lawyer says. That’s what I do. Despite being terrified, I turned down wasband’s settlement offer twice

      • Way to go Lambie, My lawyer sent my counter proposal over, that is another reason he is upset. I love that part.
        I told Ahole that if he takes car we will sell everything down to the toilet paper, including his GUNS and all his tools

      • Right. Don’t settle until it seems fair to you.

  • I need HELP, feeling out of control

    After asking to return to the house and my daughter, grandchildren and myself leaving last weekend. My Ahole wasband is leaving on February 14th and had the audacity to ask me to stay at the house and take care of the dog and I guess keep it clean as we have it for sale. The only reason I haven’t sent him a n…[Read more]

    • This is completely unacceptable and I would be livid too.
      You might want to consider asking him to not contact you anymore and only reach you through your lawyer. Then he can make his ridiculous requests to your lawyer instead of you.

      Good luck.

      • I’m afraid he’ll take car, he has key also, I talked to assistant today she said she would have my lawyer contact his.

        • I understand. I’m afraid of my wasband too. . My car, I mean, I call it “my car” but it’s not, is actually titled in wasband’s name. Ask your lawyer for advice and do what the lawyer says. That’s what I do. Despite being terrified, I turned down wasband’s settlement offer twice

          • Way to go Lambie, My lawyer sent my counter proposal over, that is another reason he is upset. I love that part.
            I told Ahole that if he takes car we will sell everything down to the toilet paper, including his GUNS and all his tools

          • Right. Don’t settle until it seems fair to you.

    • Rebel, as long as you feel safe in your house, and he’s gone, isn’t that an acceptable time of peace for you? Please be careful how much you medicate the problems away. We need focus and Valium or other substance can remove our clarity. I have chosen to do rebuilding things when the tsunami’s hit and I’m blue or angry – walk, swim, play with dog,…[Read more]

      • Thanks everyone I swear I don’t medicate very often, I think twice since he told me the 10th of dec.
        I am just tired of being a puppet, he is now in our home, I’m at my daughters. He has now had the gall to ask me to come back to the house while he takes a trip February 18-24 so I can get house ready for showings and to take care of Harley our…[Read more]

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Yep they deserve each other.
    My lawyer has told me he can think whatever he wants but he will to disclose all acts open and closed. We women are smart enough to use OUR computers to find out what to expect during the divorce process. I live in MO

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Nothing so far lawyer is going to call his counsel Monday to see if anything can be done.
    He also thinks his individual credit cards and checking acct information is not my or my lawyers business.

    • Ha! All of his financials are very much your business right now. Not sure what state you live in, but in CA there is a requirement for FULL disclosure of ALL assets and debts in writing, even if you settle peacefully. I’m sure most states do the same or similar. Basically, the need for full disclosure outweighs any right to privacy during divorce.…[Read more]

      • Yep they deserve each other.
        My lawyer has told me he can think whatever he wants but he will to disclose all acts open and closed. We women are smart enough to use OUR computers to find out what to expect during the divorce process. I live in MO

  • My jerk wasband made a living arrangement with me because our 13 year old granddaughter was put in the hospital with suicidal thoughts. After my daughter and grandchildren moved over here to our house and jerk moved to their apartment he doesn’t think this will work for him. He is uncomfortable.
    Now everyone including myself has to make d…[Read more]

    • Ugh, so what happened?

      • Nothing so far lawyer is going to call his counsel Monday to see if anything can be done.
        He also thinks his individual credit cards and checking acct information is not my or my lawyers business.

        • Ha! All of his financials are very much your business right now. Not sure what state you live in, but in CA there is a requirement for FULL disclosure of ALL assets and debts in writing, even if you settle peacefully. I’m sure most states do the same or similar. Basically, the need for full disclosure outweighs any right to privacy during divorce.…[Read more]

          • Yep they deserve each other.
            My lawyer has told me he can think whatever he wants but he will to disclose all acts open and closed. We women are smart enough to use OUR computers to find out what to expect during the divorce process. I live in MO

  • Rebel Longfield posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Oh Blondie, I so feel for you, it is so hard to try to get them to see what they are loosing. The entire family will never feel whole again.
    The only thing you can do is take care of yourself and look to the next minute, then hour, then day till you get strong enough to say I am more important than him. Just make of a list of things that you are…[Read more]

    • Dear Rebel,
      You are so right, he has a lot to loose but he made the choice. Only time will tell, I will take care of myself. I pray for strength and know I am blessed and loved by my children, family and friends. I have a long road ahead of me but I also know that I am a surviver! God Bless us all.