I have not rushed anything. I have been seeing someone. We have been going out for a few months, just getting to know each other. This happened out of the blue but it has been nice to have someone my age to talk to about things and life in general. I have no idea where this is going and I have no plans to rush anything. If it’s meant to be then…[Read more]

I am trying to get to forgiveness. I’ll think about it sometimes when I’m in the shower. I can, as you mentioned, forgive some little things. I can almost forgive him for the divorce all together as my youngest daughter has blossomed so much. That is the best thing that has happened from the divorce. My daughter has opened up, she has friends…[Read more]

I am trying to focus on the present but forgetting the past is difficult to do with what would have been out 28th wedding anniversary coming up. I am going to keep trying to push that out of my mind like I know he has done. I wish I could just throw the past away I just don’t know how to do that. Maybe I should ask the wasband, or as my youngest…[Read more]

I feel that I am getting to the win!! My girls and I will be moving out of the apartment and moving into a rental home. It feels good to be able to have a place to call home again. My oldest and I really are looking forward to not having to worry about having to find a place to park when we get home late after work!! I praised God yesterday after…[Read more]

Yes, we are making it and yes those first few months were hell. I am so glad that I am past it and I feel like my girls are past it also, but they are seeing their, the ex, for the first time for the youngest and the second time for the oldest this weekend. He has decided to come see the youngest for her 18th birthday and it has been over a year…[Read more]

I don’t know how I made it through the first few months after the wasband left. I was in a tailspin. I had no job, no money coming in. I had to use the money from the sale of the house to pay for rent and bills for 5 months. I know that I have come a long way with the help here from all you RADICAL women and my girls and my therapist. I also know…[Read more]

This is all very true. Thank you Suzy for posting it. It has been just over a year that he has been gone and it looks like things are turning to the good, better for us. I hope it continues!!

Panzer Ridge, I just read your post and everything that you said is correct! We are all strong women who are going through a healing process before we move forward in what will be a great new life! I know my wasband is not doing any healing, he has proposed and will be getting remarried later this year and our divorce was final in November 2018.…[Read more]

Kiki, thank you so much for the reminder. Yes, God loves me and he loves all of us. I will be saying that when the thoughts come into my head. I needed that reminder since I work in retail I don’t always have a chance to get to church. This week I am missing 3 days that I am normally at church for grace group and bible study. I hope that you have…[Read more]

This is very hard to do. I try hard to not think about him at all, but sometimes it comes up and it hurts and then I want him to hurt. I do not talk to him at all. Everything is done through email. Like you said, when the phone did ring it makes the heart beat faster. I wish I had a place that I could go to in my mind like you do with the fishing,…[Read more]

I wish I could go unconscious right now also. It has been a bad few days, just feeling sad and unhappy and wanting to cry. But since we are in such a small apartment the girls would hear me, and I don’t want them to hear me. They know that I am sad and have been for these past few days, but I don’t want them to hear, I want them to be able to move…[Read more]

I am having a hard time with the upcoming holidays and finding out things about the wasband. I feel down right now and my blood sugar is low, so that is not helping, it is making everything harder. I received a card from a friend of both of us and although he has gone through a divorce he is still friends with the wasband and they live in the same…[Read more]

I sure hope that something better comes along. I have been suffering and I realize that God knew this was going to happen and that He has better plans for me and my daughters. In the mean time, I can’t wait for his plans to happen and help us.

Yes the holidays will be tough. I had to work today for awhile and have since gotten back to the apartment. My daughters had it out with their father today and he told them he won’t be in touch with either of them unless they contact him first. Unfortunately, he needed to be told that by the girls although I doubt he really realizes how hurt they…[Read more]

I’m not sure what the holidays will bring for the girls and I. I might be working on Thanksgiving and my eldest might have to work also. We are both waiting to see what our schedules will be like. I do give thanks that my youngest is doing so much better since her father has left. I am so glad that she is doing so much better after her mental…[Read more]

Mitten, I felt the same way about being hurt by the wasband wanting the divorce and he wasn’t even at the proceeding. The wasband has failed the family and our daughters want nothing to do with him at this time. And my wasband is also like his father and the rest of his family as they have all been divorced at least once. I’m glad to be done with…[Read more]

I have kept Jermiah 29:11 in my mind since I received the verse from Suzy when I received my Masterplan. I have recited that verse everyday since then. I believe that God will help me through this divorce and then I will be able to help whoever he sends my way that needs help. Although I would like for things in my life to happen quicker, like…[Read more]

I am trying to figure out what my destination will be. I had been unemployed for most of the summer and had been living off of the money from the sale of our house. I am now currently working at a grocery store, not what I really want to be doing, but at least I am bringing some money in. I want to look for a new home for myself and my…[Read more]